The Friendship / Relationship Paradox

What are the most important things in a relationship? Personally it's love, trust, respect and care. But believe me when I tell you that finding someone who can offer you all of those, is no mean feat. However that's not such a problem with friends!

I promise this isn't some girlish drawl of "Oh men suck, I'm going to be single all my life", and neither is it some dig at any previous relationships. It's simply me acknowledging what took a long time to realise - That the love of a friendship can be just as rewarding as the love of a relationship.

There is nothing more comforting than having a good hug and a motivational talk, or a spontaneous act of generosity from a best friend. It doesn't matter if you're having a great day or a terrible one, the company of your friends makes it better. Unfortunately, there comes a time in life when we find ourselves stuck in a depressingly exhausting situation with someone we care about. Yet there is always something to rely on fixing us up, and that's the support of your friends. As my best friend recently proved.

Some people inadvertently forget about this in the heat of a new relationship, and end up leaving friends behind. It's important to remember that when the flames die down or things between you and your crush become stale, good friends will always be waiting on the sidelines. Providing you treat them fairly! 

Friends always seem to sense what you need, they always know what to do. When you need distracting, they're by your side with plans for an exhausting day of fun. When you need some time alone, they're only a phone call away. And when you're too blind to see that you're heading for a fall, they gently point you in the right direction. Failing that, they're picking up the pieces and helping you move on.

Not many of us are lucky enough to find 'the one'. But until then, I'm pretty content being surrounded by good friends and enjoying living my life. And that, I believe, is something we should all be grateful about.

After all...

"A hug is worth a thousand words. A friend is worth more." 

Thanks for reading, over and out.