Okay so this is a subject that comes up a lot, I know. But it's something that really grates me, that even today, in our ever-developing society, we struggle to accept homosexuality as part of our culture.
Straight, gay, bisexual or transgendered. Four categories that we are all pushed and prodded to file into, just because of a difference in who they are attracted to. These sexuality groups define people every day, and why? Because it has become 'normal' for us to do so. But judging others based on who they are interested in is trivial nonsense.
Honestly I have literally NO idea why some (I’m talking about a small minority here) treat homosexuality like some disgusting disease to be avoided at all costs. In today’s culture it should be acceptable, but people still can’t stand to see a gay couple walk down the street holding hands, without flinching or staring. The number of times I've seen people pull faces and walk away, it's daft! I can promise you, gays aren’t zombies, you won’t turn into one if they catch you!
Deny it or not, there is definitely a negative connotation attached to the whole idea of being anything other than straight. Terms like “faggot” or ”dyke” are made more offensive by their intention; by the fact people intentionally use them for the stronger reaction. Being called gay has become a form of insult, as well as a joke and a derogatory comment. Justin Bieber is constantly slated for being gay, because he sings well and his good looks are considered feminine. Lady GaGa was accused of being a transvestite, just because she wasn't what we consider a 'normal' celebrity.
Speaking from an unbiased perspective, I think a lot of apprehension and negativity is sourced from a lack of understanding on not only what it is like to be gay, but why someone makes the choice to be so. That’s individual circumstances and everyone is different, but the key factor is that we all deserve the right to make our own decisions without facing judgement or criticism from others!
Guys out there who snort at homosexual girls, taunt that they ‘just haven’t had the right guy yet’, and brag that they would ‘sort them out’, really do need their heads bashing together. Maybe they haven’t found the right guy, maybe it is you... But it’s much more likely all you’re doing by ridiculing her sexuality, is reinforcing why the poor girl isn't interested in guys in the first place. Who knows?
But I’m not just whining about how homophobic people are, the other extreme is just as tedious. For example, girls who desperately want their very own ‘Gay BFF’. Which is fine if you’re friends with the guy for who he is, but don’t choose your friends based on sexuality because you think it’s ‘cool’. You can’t pick up a sweet little ‘Gay BFF’ at the store and parade them round on your arm like a new bag.
Recently a friend confessed he is struggling with coming to terms with his sexuality. Aged 14, he feels guilty and wrong for being homosexual, has a family that refuses to accept it and friends who bully him outrageously for it. He planned to run away, instead of having to face the rejection associated with being gay. And unfortunately, public reaction to homosexuality means that running or hiding away is the reality for many confused teens.
Sometimes if enough people speak out, it’s just enough to make others listen. Or at least I like to hope so.
Thanks for reading, over and out.
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